Monday, January 18, 2010

bye-bye-binky

The long story of Lucy saying bye-bye to her binky. Photo courtesy of Leland.

Lucy has been our binky girl. We have tried to limit her binky time to when she is sleeping. Although recently she would find one during the day and would make it a game/fight to put it away. I once saw her climbing the shelves of the linen closet to try and reach a binky on the top shelf. I have felt a little guilty about taking away her source of comfort since her older sister will always have her thumb to bring her comfort. Everything I have read about binkies are "get rid of them before age 1". Since that is long gone, I knew this was going to be difficult. Chuck and I have a parenting motto that the hardest thing to do now, is usually what is best in the long run.

Last Friday, I had had enough. It was 10am and Lucy was claiming she was tired, talking through the binky in her mouth and a coi smile. I knew she was claiming the tiredness just to get her binky. I took it away and the fit started. flailing. screaming. tears. point of no return.

I found all the binkies in the house and said they are going in the trash. More crying and screaming pursued. I put Lucy in her room and held the door shut. She sat by the door with her fingers poking through the bottom saying through the sobs, "I all done now, open the door." But after a few minutes of being out of her room, she would ask for the binky, I would say they were in the trash and the screaming would start again. I tried to tell her she was a big girl now and didn't need the binky. Her reply was, "No, I'm a little baby!" This is also her reason for not wanting to sit on the potty and continue to wear diapers.

Finally after about an hour and a half of fit throwing, she fell asleep in my arms. She took her nap without a binky. Success!

That night I had basketball games to coach and play, so Chuck would be home with the girls. I told him that he could not ruin all the drama that we went through earlier in the day and give her a binky at bedtime. During the evening, they were playing superheroes and Lucy was pretending to be Dash from Incredibles. At some point she asked Chuck for her binky and he convinced her that superheros did not use a binky.

When I got home after 9pm Lucy was still awake and proceeded to cry for her binky. I read her stories, I cuddled her, I sang to her, I shut her in the bathroom for crying to loudly. Finally at about 10:30pm she finally fell asleep without her binky. Success!

Night # 3 sans binky, Sunday night. Lucy never even asked for her binky. Hopefully that continues. That first day was brutal, but I can't believe it only took 3 days. I still wish I would have done it earlier. Now onto getting Leland to stop sucking her thumb. I can't cut it off and throw it in the trash, so I might just rely on possible ridicule when she starts school to rid her of the habit.

8 comments:

  1. Too crazy! I just got rid of Ella's binkie a week and a half ago. I snipped a tiny piece off the end (like 1/8th of an inch) and she wanted nothing to do with them. My plan was to continue snipping but alas, it wasn't necessary. She feel asleep fine but the next day didn't nap. But then that was it. I'm with you... I can' believe how easy it was! Never again...

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  2. Oh my goodness, I'm scared to get rid of Ty's binkie. We have talked about it forever and have never had the guts to throw them away. We have got to do it. We just transfered him to a big bed so Kate could have the crib and he didn't like that at all, but the cries only lasted one day. Maybe once the "big bed" idea has settled in a little bit more we will tackle the binkie. Way to stick to your guns!

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  3. You give me courage to try (again) with Kyle and his soft-top sippy cup. He takes it to bed empty just to suck on it! Good luck with Leland and the thumb--that's gotta be the worst!

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  4. How's it going without the binkie? Any sleepless nights?

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  5. She's asked for it a few times and I just ignore her or say the binkies are gone. She's been okay with that response and moved on each time. The times she woke up in the middle of the night, she has never asked for it once.

    I can't believe it worked so quickly. I thought she would drag on and on about it for days.

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  6. I know it was traumatic for you but I got a good laugh several times. My favorite is that super heroes don't use binkies. Miss playing!

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  7. This post totally inspired me! I stopped giving Arden her binkie a couple weeks ago, and it's been a total success. I'm glad I did it before she became too attached. Woohoo!

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  8. I was having major problems with my son's binky use; well actually it was more along the lines of a binky addiction!! My friend absolutely raved about the cut method, and all of the psychology behind it. She found it on www.bye-bye-binky.com , which is great that it was also free. We went with it and OMGosh... worked so beautifully for my son with NO tantrums, not even one! Thank you God. Five days later he did not want anything to do with his binky. What a relief it was to all of us to finally be done with those darn binkies. Highly recommended! I am also interested in others experiences.... Bella

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